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Five Tips to Get Your Dating Site Profile Noticed
Sep. 5th, 2008 | 07:35 pm
mood: accomplished
The Hardest Part is Getting Their Attention
The title, or headline of your profile is the most important part and writing a great one may take longer than all the rest of your profile. Your headline should be relatively short, but needs to make an impact. Completely avoid starting with “Hi, I’m so-and-so…”; it’s not headline worthy. Make a statement, ask a question, reveal a secret, do something out of the ordinary to catch the attention of someone scrolling by.
They’re Gonna Want to See What You Look Like
Sadly enough, in many cases, looks do matter to a lot of people. It’s evidenced by the fact that profiles without pictures are hardly looked at and receive far fewer responses than profiles with photos included. Especially popular are profiles with several pictures, including close ups. Your pictures must be current. If you don’t have any recent pictures within the last 6 months, you’ll need to take some. On most adult dating sites nudity is perfectly acceptable, but on a regular dating site it’s recommend you read their terms of service.
Your Words Should Paint a Picture of Who You Are
If your attention-grabbing headline and photos did their job, people will be reading your profile to learn more about you. Don’t let them leave empty-headed. Fill their minds with mental images of who you are, what you like and what you’re looking for. Use words like ‘imagine’ and ‘picture this’ to create mental pictures of what you’re describing…which is YOU! Show them with your words, rather than just tell them. If you’re loving and generous, describe volunteer work you do or a charity 10k run you participated in. Mention your hobbies and interests and what you hope to find on the dating site. They’ll be gathering as much information as possible to form a decision about you. Give them all you can to help them make that decision.
What Your Profile Should Not Reveal
You want to share as much information about yourself as possible, but your personal contact information, such as address and phone number should never be part of your public profile. On an online dating site, you must exercise caution as to when and to whom you give out your personal info. Talk to them online for a while, then, if and only when you feel comfortable should you agree to exchange phone numbers. The same care should be taken whether you’re on an adult dating site or a regular one. Pick public places to meet for the first few times and take your own car.
Above All, Be Yourself
You want responses from people who have a real interest in getting to know you. What you don’t want is a relationship built on lies. Be honest in your profile. Nobody wants to learn they’ve been deceived and this holds especially true on a dating site. Word spreads at the speed of type online. If it becomes known that your profile is filled with falsehoods, you may as well cancel your membership.
- Become a master of the adult dating online booty call
- 5 tips for writing a successful adult dating site profile
- Dating Sites - the Secret Weapon is the Chat Room
- Dating Sites - Getting in on the Secret Weapon of Chat Rooms
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Online Dating - 10 rules everyone should know
Sep. 5th, 2008 | 07:24 pm
Your love life may be stalled for a number of reasons. A recently ended relationship might leave you stranded with a condensed social circle and feelings of loneliness. You might have experienced a recent change, like a divorce, graduating from college, or moving to a new city. No matter what the circumstance, it is hard to meet new people. Enter the world of online dating – full of variety, spice, and excitement. If you're new to the online dating scene, there are several things that everyone should know.
1. Plan ahead
Are you looking to just spend some time entertaining yourself in chat rooms? Looking for someone to hang out with on the weekends? Seeking a one night stand? Trying to find Mr. or Ms. Right? Determine your goals for online dating and stick to them - otherwise you might hurt the feelings of others or find yourself scraping up the pieces of another failed relationship.
2. Ask your friends
Online dating and chat rooms are standard tools for people of all walks of life looking for love or a little fun. Ask your friends what sites have worked for them in the past. Trust the opinions of those you already know rather than choosing a service at random.
3. Start slow
You may need to spend some time in chat rooms, email correspondence, or even via the telephone before you feel comfortable enough to meet someone. Take your time - there is no rush! Enjoy the process and embrace the excitement.
4. Tell the truth!
If you really want to experience success with online dating, you must be honest. While you cannot control the actions of others, maintaining accountability to yourself will thwart the temptation to attach someone else's picture to your profile or lie about your past.
5. Organize and prioritise
Online dating can be overwhelming. It's a lot easier to browse profiles of individuals that you know are looking for a relationship than to strike up a conversation with someone at the bar. Choose a few of the most interesting profiles, take notes, and limit yourself to corresponding with them at first. You can always look again if they don't work out, and this will avoid too much activity and confusing emotions.
6. Don't believe everything you see or read
If he or she sounds too good to be true, it's very possible that you're looking at a bad egg. Take your time getting to know someone. Check their story. If you have arrived to the point where personal information has been revealed, there are ways you can verify details. If a person claims they work at the local community college, you can check the phone directory for their name. Public record is a valuable resource!
7. Chat room etiquette
That old adage "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all” still applies to online dating. Chat rooms often give people a sense of invincibility. When the fingers start flying, things tend to move fast and have the potential to get steamy. Stop. Think. If you wouldn't say it to a complete stranger face-to-face, don't say it at all.
8. Paying for an online dating service might not be so bad
Websites that charge for entering chat rooms or making an online dating profile may turn you off at first glance. You might feel embarrassed or afraid to shell out hard earned money to a dating website; however, you can rest assured that if someone is willing to make the investment it costs to participate in online dating circles, it's possible that they are very serious and willing to go the extra mile for you!
9. Be available
Don't have access to the internet everyday? This might cause problems in the online dating world. Those who try this method of socialization like to think they'll receive quick responses. Be available, consider setting aside a specific time to spend in the chat room, and respond to emails in a timely fashion. Otherwise, you might find your potentials losing interest.
10. Safety first, second, and third
When you've gathered your confidence and found somebody you want to meet face-to-face, remember that you don't know what to expect. Meet in a public place. Drive your own car so that you can maintain control of your environment, and leave if you feel uncomfortable. Even if the first date leads to a second, or third, keep in mind that you've only just met, and there is no need to rush.
Additional Reading
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Joining A Chat Room
Sep. 5th, 2008 | 05:27 pm
Subscribing
Subscribing to a chat room is the best way to go if you want to chat with some degree of safety and security. The subscription fees you pay to join go in part to help maintain this kind of secure cyber atmosphere. All chat rooms that are subscription based have paid moderators that scout for inappropriate and abusive content. They also have an extensive identification verification process that is stringent. They do record and react to violators.
To join a chat room takes nothing more than your credit card. Every chat room, to include adult chat rooms, provides a subscription or enrollment button on their main page. By clicking onto that button you will be led through the subscription process, at which some point you will be required to enter your credit card information. This process is a secure system.
Membership for subscription to most chat rooms can be paid with any major credit card. Some chat rooms will accept payment through PayPal and other types of debit cards. Before subscribing to any chat room review that site's billing options and cycles.
Other Options
Some chat rooms provide the option for you to purchase and open your own room within their site. This option will give you the opportunity to set up your own chatting forum with those interested in the same things you are. Many adult chat rooms do provide this option at a reasonable annual fee.
Some chat rooms provide webcam streaming services. This streaming service is in real time, however it does require you to have a webcam. Webcams can make for an even closer interaction between chatters, especially if you both are streaming simultaneously. Many adult chat rooms provide this service.
Cyber Talk
In most chat rooms there is a language of acronyms. This is a way of communicating quickly between parties. If you don't know the many acronyms that do exist do not fear. Just get out there and start communicating. When you run into those acronyms ask the one you are chatting with what it means. Most people in these chat rooms will be more than glad to help. Also, many sites do provide an extensive list of acronyms used in chat rooms and throughout the internet.
There are a tremendous amount of chat rooms on the internet today to practically fit anyone's taste. Many chat rooms on the internet today specialize in specific areas of interests, with the general exception of the free chat rooms.
Further Reading
- Chat Rooms – 5 Tips for Successful Chatting
- Dating Site Chat Rooms –How Much do You Know?
- Chat Room Etiquette
Aelicia :)
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Getting the Most Out of Chat Rooms
Apr. 6th, 2008 | 10:27 pm
mood: 
mischievous
1. Know the Rules
Have a quick read through the frequently asked questions or guidelines page of your chosen chat room. Although adult chats tend to allow just about anything, other sites can have pretty hefty restrictions when it comes to language and posting images. Before you find yourself blocked or restricted from a site, take a moment to familiarize yourself with their rules.
2. Lurk Before You Leap
Just as you wouldn’t walk up to a group at a cocktail party and start jabbering on, the same etiquette applies in chat rooms. When you first enter a room, spend a couple of minutes watching the conversation so that you understand what they are talking about before you give your input. This will ensure that you add some quality to the conversation and avoid embarrassing yourself.
3. Introduce Yourself
It’s always a good idea to give yourself a quick introduction each time you enter an adult chat room and begin to participate. Along with your username you might also want to mention your age, gender, and general geographic location (not your address).
4. Engage Individuals Directly
If you want to address an individual in the room directly, introduce your statement or question with the person's username and a colon or hyphen (for example, 'Hotstuff: What sort of person are you looking for?').
5. Use People’s User Names
Even if you know someone really well, always avoid referring to them by their real name. Respect people’s right to privacy and anonymity when chatting.
6. Don’t Hog the Conversation
No body likes a conversation hog. When the topic is something you’re really passionate about, it can be tempting to over-contribute. Be respectful to other chatters and give them a chance to chime in. Try to pose questions instead of always responding. Address other chatters directly and elicit their feedback on a topic. Be inclusive and try not to monopolize. Give the room a chance to answer you. Patience is a virtue.
7. Stay Cool
You may experience instances where someone will enter your chat room simply to annoy chatters and disrupt the conversation. While your instinct may be to confront them, you’re most likely giving them the exact response they desire. As difficult as it may be, it’s best to simply ignore this person or use your blocking feature to completely tune them out. If you find this person consistently popping up, report them to the website and they may be removed.
8. Don’t be Naive
It’s important that you don’t forget about your safety and privacy when chatting. Never give out your personal information and never illicit personal information from others. Your real name, address, phone number and email address should stay private at all times.
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Top Ten Ways to Attract that Guy
Apr. 6th, 2008 | 10:00 pm
mood: 
chipper
1. Dress for Success
Always try to look your very best whenever you go out. If you look disheveled, sleazy, or uncomfortable men will most likely move on. Choose colors that complement your skin tone and brighten you up. You might even consider meeting with a wardrobe consultant to learn more about how to create your best look. Give yourself at least thirty minutes to primp and polish your appearance – you’ll not only look better, you’ll feel better as well.
2. Don’t Wait for Him
Work up the courage to approach a man and you will most likely knock his socks off. Men almost never get picked up by women and the gesture will win you huge points.
3. Feel Good about Yourself
If you don’t feel good about yourself you can’t expect others to. Focus on your good points and give out a vibe that you are confident and self-assured.
4. Show Your Intelligence
Women with brains are a real turn-on for men. Of course men want a woman they find physically attractive, but a woman who can carry on an intelligent conversation is in high demand. Before you head out for the evening, catch up on some current events and be prepared to discuss some interesting topics.
5. Make them feel great
Men love to be complimented and flattered. Point out some of his finer points and he’ll be wrapped around your little finger.
6. Touch Him
Get close to him and look for opportunities to brush his leg and touch his hand. Little touches placed strategically send him a very clear signal you’re interested without coming on too strong.
7. Lure Him In
One of the best ways you can send a message to a man is with your body language. Your eyes, posture and stance speak volumes so make sure you’re saying what you mean to say. For example, many women cross their arms over their chest when they are cold. Unfortunately, this can send the message that you are closed off and uninterested. Try to keep an open and inviting posture when speaking to someone you are attracted to.
8. Don’t Get Drunk
Rarely will you wake up in the morning and feel grateful that you had too much to drink the night before. Most of us behave badly and make poor decisions when we’ve had too much to drink. Stick to just a couple of drinks, keep your wits about you, and make a great first impression.
9. Use Common Sense
Be smart about what you choose to talk about. No man wants to hear about your ex or your crummy job. Aim to be fun and positive.
10. Be a Good Conversationalist
One of the biggest mistakes women make is talking too much. Guys don’t like to have their ear yakked off so try to keep the conversation even and balanced by asking a lot of questions.
Aelicia :)
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Dating Advice Index
Mar. 7th, 2008 | 06:25 pm
I couldn't work out how to do a common sense index page with LiveJournal so I'll list all of my articles here. The most recent ones are at the top.
Getting the Most Out of Chat Rooms
There’s no doubt about it - chat rooms are a lot of fun when used appropriately. Follow just a few simply guidelines and you will maximize the experience for yourself and fellow chatters...
Top Ten Ways to Attract that Guy
Women with brains are a real turn-on for men. Of course men want a woman they find physically attractive, but a woman who can carry on an intelligent conversation is in high demand. Before you head out for the evening, catch up on some current events and be prepared to discuss some interesting topics...
Joining A Chat Room
There are two types of chat rooms on the internet today. The free chat room and the chat room you pay to join. The most attractive feature of the free chat room is quite obvious, it's free. However, free chat rooms do not provide the services and identification verification, nor the safety and security of those you would subscribe to.
Online Dating - 10 rules everyone should know
Online dating is an exciting frontier, filled with possibilities lurking around every corner - but before you begin returning those enticing emails, there are 10 rules you should abide by when it comes to online dating.
Five Tips to Get Your Dating Site Profile Noticed
Did you know your profile plays a big role in the success of your dating site experience? An interesting and enticing profile will get a much greater response than a boring profile and the quality of the responses will be better as well. To increase the odds of your profile getting winks, read the following five tips.